Part IV This is Part II of a 5 part series “5 Bogus Coaching Cliches (and better alternatives). Click here for Part I. Cliche #4: Increase your motivation to overcome your resistance This approach asks you to overpower your resistance by adding and adding to your motivators until it is finally […]
Read MoreDisguised as a message of personal responsibility, the judge’s statement is indignant, dismissive, and harsh. In fact, it backfires. Instead of creating a view of personal responsibility as healthy and attainable, he wrapped it in a cloak of shame and inadequacy, which just creates resistance in the listener. It says: “Don’t you dare even ASK […]
Read MorePart III This is Part II of a 5 part series “5 Bogus Coaching Cliches (and better alternatives). Click here for Part I. Cliche #3: If it’s important, you’ll do it. If that were true, there would be no such thing as obesity, smoking, or forgetting. Do you really think a smoker continues to smoke […]
Read MorePart II This is Part II of a 5 part series “5 Bogus Coaching Cliches (and better alternatives). Click here for Part I. Cliche #2: Just Do It. Sorry, Nike, it’s not that simple. This phrase is a fallacy on 2 levels: First, it assumes that the solution to a daunting activity is to bulldoze […]
Read More Coaching, EFT, Just Do It, Overcome Resistance, Self Help, Stress, TappingPart I I originally thought I’d do a single post for all 5 of these, but -as with most oversimplified cliches- it takes some explaining to break it down and replace with something useful. So, instead I’ve created a 5 part series I’ll intersperse across several posts. Keep an eye out for the others! […]
Read MoreTapping Guide for “ Giving Up” This is a simplified guide, meant for those who have already met with me individually or in a workshop and learned the techniques. Please read my accompanying Blog Post: 5 bogus coaching cliches (Part 1) before using this guide. For each reminder phrase (in quotes) below, fill in the […]
Read MoreBusiness and Self-help advice can often sound that way, can’t it? The recommendation is valid, yes, but it stops short of executability. I call this the Self-help Gap. I was listening to a podcast entitled “How to start a business without destroying your relationship.” The speaker gave a tip for the spouse of the entrepreneur: When your […]
Read MoreI heard an interesting quote on NPR this morning. It was US Olympic Team swimmer, Ryan Lochte, talking about Michael Phelps. Lochte said: “I know he gave it 110%, and honestly, that’s all you can really ask for.” Really? 110% is the new 100% ? Now, I’m not criticizing Ryan Lochte personally, because this seems […]
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